In the weeks leading up to my 30th birthday, I kept waiting to have that ‘aha’ moment, or at least some prolific thought to mark this milestone occasion.
I’m not usually a sentimental person, and I’ve never made a big deal of my birthdays, but there is something about ‘30’ that feels like a big change, and with all the pressure of the media (and my brother dropping the term ‘cougar’), there is an inevitable cultural shift.
I honestly don’t think a 30 year old qualifies as ‘cougar level’, but regardless I DO think the term should be celebrated – cheers to feeling and being young.
We are living longer, with a revolutionary changing and progressive world, 30 literally IS the new 20, heck 40 is the new twenty!
Though I’m largely devoid of epiphanies — I absolutely know more than I did when I was, say, 25. I know, for example, that you don’t HAVE to tip your taxi driver just to avoid being harassed. I know that it’s ok to whittle down your friendships to the few core people that matter, and the profound importance of saying ‘no’ to some opportunities so you can focus on others. I understand the importance of slowing down to see the details (a concept I so wish I grasped when I was 21).
As a gift for my birthday, a ‘lovely friend’, sent over this list from Glamour Magazine entitled:
(I’ve also pasted it below for your convenience).
But in celebration (and for fun), I’m seeking an updated and unique NEW list of advice (whether you are 30, 80, or 15! ).
So give me your ADVICE and WIN my 7 Day Body Reset Plan (value $199)
How to WIN:
As always, entering the giveaway is easy and free and joyful. All you have to do is comment on this post answering one of the following:
- By age 30, what should you have?
- By age 30, what should you know?
Feel free to answer both, but just one entry per person.
3 Winners Will be Chosen!
- The giveaway is open until Friday, August 14th, at 5 PM EST. I’ll email and announce the winner after that.
- Now for the Current List (have a read, it may inspire you)!
By 30, you should have:
- One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
- A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
- Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
- A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
- A youth you’re content to move beyond.
- A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
- The realization that you are actually going tohave an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
- An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
- A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
- One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
- A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
- Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
- The belief that you deserve it.
- A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
- A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life thatdo get better.
By 30, you should know:
- How to fall in love without losing yourself.
- How you feel about having kids.
- How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
- When to try harder and when to walk away.
- How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
- The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
- How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
- How to take control of your own birthday.
- That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
- That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
- What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
- That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
- Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
- Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
- Why they say life begins at 30.
Now it’s your turn -what do you think you should have or know by age 30 ?
Post your comment AND WIN!
List excerpted from Glamour’s “Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know By The Time She’s 30.”